Regarding References

It’s come to My attention that some of you out there are a bit removed from the standards of protocol and good manners. Especially when it comes to the matter of references. I’m going to be brief, but here’s My rule:

You don’t get to use Me as a reference if you’ve not seen Me in over 2 years.

You might be wondering why that is the case? Good! Here’s why: if you’ve not seen Me in over two years, and that means in person, using Me as a reference out of the blue is uncouth. I might not have saved your emails, so trying to recall details to another Mistress without a clue is a waste of everyone’s time. Not to mention a potential safety hazard.

If, on the other hand, you’ve not been able to play in a long time, and we have met, why not reach out and ask Me before jotting down My name as a viable reference? That would be thoughtful and courteous. And we all like those attributes, now, don’t we?

I’ve said My part. Back to kinky shenanigans.

Mistress Mara

Here today and gone tomorrow

Fortune would have it that I be rather preoccupied this past month, what with travel to Cincinnati and being a bit of a show girl! Chicago has kept me rather focused, what with a few novices reaching out and finally getting their kink cherry popped; I am thrilled that these individuals sought Me out!

This coming week, I am off to Milwaukee, WI. I will have extremely select availability while there, as My Wisconsin boys are eager to see Me. Don’t let that deter you if that you simply are dying to have such an experience with Me; I strongly suggest getting in touch sooner rather than later, and being able to answer questions I might have. After all, you cannot simply expect Me to be a mind reader ( that is a profession I didn’t take, otherwise I would have found a solution to world peace by now!).

But, just because I am always on the go doesn’t mean that I can’t carve out time to read! Some of you are always asking Me what Mistress Mara is reading, and I am glad you take such an interest. Currently, I am reading T. C Boyle’s newest work, ‘Outside looking In.’ Thus far, enjoyable. Boyle has a wonderfully sinister way of documenting major hoaxes and toxic paradigms that plague some of America’s history. I highly recommend his works.

With that, I am signing off to indulge in a little bit of late night latex.

Mistress Mara


As the title of this blog entry would suggest, life has offered up nothing but excitement these past few days. This past weekend was spent in Cincinnati, Ohio, were I conducted sessions and performed at the annual Cincinnati Bondage Ball alongside many talented performers and kinksters. Now that I have had some time to catch My breath, I thought I would share some of the tales, as well as some mini tour announcements.

The Cincinnati Bondage Ball was well attended. Given that it’s an annual event, people come in droves from all over the place to participate in the Bacchanalian festivities. The dark ambience of the venue provided the perfect setting for much kinky play to happen, as several areas of the space were equipped for just that. Just imagine the fog machine, a dark room, and a beautiful rope bondage suspension scene happening in the corner. That was the exact setting for this event.

My performance was one of several talented, and well curated acts. While I do feel that you ought to have witnessed the event in person, I will tell you that My act paid homage to the late David Bowie, whose music and artistic sensibilities have provided much inspiration for Myself. A light blue vinyl ensemble, Isis wings, and many backbends were included. I’ve not done burlesque in some time, so to be soo well received by such a responsive audience was rewarding. The art of tease is something I have mastered over the years, and I was happy to bring the art form to Ohio. In the past, I have performed at the NYC Fetish Ball, as well as the Detroit Fetish Party. Who knows? Maybe one of these days you’ll be privy to such a performance.

“What’s next on Mistress Mara Mayhem’s agenda,”you might be wondering. Aside from keeping Chicago submissives well-behaved, I have plans to be in NYC later in August. I also will be attending the local Chicago Club Fem Party this coming weekend, on August 3rd. This is a great play party, with the dynamic being CFnm, (clothed female, nude male). Of course, feminized males are welcome. You can find out more about the event on

I also was thinking to Myself that it’s been some time since I last went up to Milwaukee, Wisconsin, and I know just how much you Wisconsin boys enjoyed My last trek up that way. The dates I was thinking of for that were August 8-9th, give or take. You can politely email Me with regards to this little tryst up north.. Do keep in mind that references and deposits are required in order for Me to consider you, should you be a new applicant.

For now , I have some local slaves to shape up. Ball busting and foot worship are on the agenda, what with My newly pedicured gold toes and pale complexion. What a combination!

Mistress Mara

Musings while on the road

Has it really been that long since My last journal entry? Much has happened since the time of My return from Europe, some of it mundane, some of it kinky. Let’s start with where I am in the world, currently.

As I write this, I am located in a lovely boutique hotel in downtown Cincinnati, Ohio, where I have been conducting kinky business, as well as rehearsing for the event of the Summer, the Cincinnati Bondage Ball. Yes, I will be performing there alongside some very talented people. No. I won’t tell you what kind of performance I will be doing. You would need to be there to believe it. I certainly don’t make things easy, do I? (Of course not!)

Shows and performances aside, I am tentatively planning on being in NYC in mid August for a few days. It’s been a spell since I last sauntered down the streets of Manhattan, and I always enjoy the NYC Rubber Studio, where I prefer to bide My time and bondage. Consider this a fair warning, East Coast slaves. I am soldifying dates as soon as I hit the ground in Chicago tomorrow, and have time to really plan out My course of action.

Lastly, I will relay this:

I had one of the most satisfying ball busting scenes this past week. Steel toe boots were involved. Light rope bondage. Leather parachutes and weights made male pieces of anatomy swing and stretch. The grin on My face as I type this is a great indication of how much pleasure I derive from such ventures. Photos weren’t taken. Privacy is paramount, after all. It always is.

Off to conquer!

Mistress Mara

My Return:

What a great vacation I had! Taking time off to wander and explore a different part of the world revitalizes all of My senses, and grants Me opportunity to really appreciate what I have back in My fair and windy city.

While I won’t indulge you in the exact details of My whereabouts, I can tell you that My time was well spent! Catacombs, nightclubs, concerts, and days spent wandering in the woods all took place, as did some fine dining and wine tastings. I may have even procured some new rubber garments, but they will need time to be made, as custom orders are best not rushed!

So, now that I am back in Chicago, what does your Mistress have planned?

For starters, I must now prepare for the Cincinnati Bondage Ball later next month, in case you didn’t know? Yes, Mistress Devlynn has asked yours truly to be a part of her amazing event that she hosts every year at the end of July. I seriously cannot wait to show you what I have planned!

More information can be found here:

Perhaps some of you will make the trek down and see for yourselves. If you do so, consider a doubles encounter with Mistress Devlynn and Myself; We work very well together, and experiences like this don’t happen every day, so why not indulge in something different? I will let dates of potential appointment availability be known in a near future post, as well as any class announcements that I may have planned for My trip down to Cincinnati.

For now, I think I have indulged you with enough cerebral fodder.

Mistress Mara

The Difference

A frequently asked question that perhaps lingers at the back of a person’s mind when they reach out to Me is the following:

’What is the difference between an experience with you and that of (insert the name(s) of the last Mistress(es) you played with)?’

Honestly, that question is difficult for Me , and perhaps any other professional to answer. For one thing, I don’t how your experience with the last individual went, and I hate to assume expertise on something I wasn’t privy to. What I can tell you with absolute certainty is that I am 100% Myself when I meet with you. I don’t put on any masks or create a facade.

The reason for that?

Authenticity is perhaps the rarest gift you can receive. No cloning. No copying. Just 100 percent Myself, red hair and sharp wit included. And sometimes, for the disrespectful yahoo that wanders into My inbox, a viper tongue (but don’t worry; you have to be a special kind of ass hat to earn that; good manners and proper grammar are one of My fetishes).

So, while My personality and appearance aren’t exactly the girl next door, I am quite easy to talk to, and the art of conversation should be on My fetish list; discourse is an amazing way to explore the person you are with, and helps ease into some of the kinky expeditions that lie ahead. I’m all about building rapport with people; that’s why same-day, last minute appointments don’t have the same appeal. Everything feels rushed!

With that being written, I am off to enjoy a book under the shade on this sunny May Day.

Mistress Mara

New image

From a recent photo shoot.

A bit more of a conservative look, but not every scene requires heavy rubber (although those who know Me know for certain that rubber is an absolute fetish of Mine).

Now, the more important question is:

are you ready to crawl into My cage, be locked in, and await what’s coming to you?

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While I am appreciative of being located in My fair city, the urge and the desire to travel are always prevalent factors. Which is why, sometimes, it’s extremely hard to see Me locally. I could be off somewhere, far away.

The month of May proves to be one of those in which availability in Chicago will be selective. Planning in advance is always encouraged, but especially in this coming month it is paramount that you, (the reader, the fan, the novice, the loyal subject, etc) plan ahead!

Mid-May, I head to Detroit, MI. The exact dates are 5/13-5/16.

Towards the end of the month, I plan on visiting Milwaukee, WI. Exact dates will be posted in My Updates Page, as well as on My Twitter account and Instagram page.

Those of you located in these areas can rejoice, and I certainly look forward to reuniting! Those of you wondering if I’ll ever even deem it worthy of My time to come visit your town, I pose this comment: Chicago isn’t that far! Also, I do travel for one-on-one engagements with select individuals who have visited with Me before, and thus have proven to be sincere and honest individuals. Therefore, you have possibilities. Abide by My rules, and be rewarded. It’s really that simple!

Now , I must sign off and fend off the doldrums that make up this dreary late-April day. The rain isn’t doing much to inspire Me just now, so I think a trip to the gym and a good book (currently reading Mary Gaitskill’s ‘Somebody with a Little Hammer.’) will do the trick. Well, and perhaps assigning My chastity slave some brutal tasks.

Mistress Mara